Karin Calde, Ph.D., CPC
IFS-Informed
Relationship Coach

I work at the intersection of relationships, emotional patterns, and the deeper inner work that becomes harder to avoid in midlife and beyond.

I support thoughtful adults who want to understand their inner world more clearly and create relationships that feel more connected, honest, and alive. Many of my clients are navigating long-term partnerships, life transitions, betrayal, or a growing sense that something needs to change.

My approach integrates Internal Family Systems (IFS), attachment, and an understanding of how nervous system states shape our emotions, behavior, and relationships. I also bring my work as a psilocybin facilitator into preparation and integration when that is part of a client’s path.

I am a Psychologist Resident with a PhD in clinical psychology, a trained coach, and a licensed psilocybin facilitator in Oregon. I am supervised by Dr. Carol S. Marcus, who has been practicing for nearly 40 years.

From the outside, it looked like I had the perfect childhood. Internally, it was a different experience.

My parents’ conflict and eventual divorce shaped me in ways I didn’t fully understand at the time. I learned to be responsible early, to stay attuned to others, and to set aside my own needs. I was desperate for connection, but also learned to protect myself from it.

Those patterns followed me into adulthood. For a long time, I didn’t recognize how dysregulated my nervous system was, or how that was shaping my relationships and even my personality. Traditional talk therapy was somewhat helpful, but didn’t create the kind of change I was looking for.

My life began to shift when I explored different ways of healing, including Internal Family Systems, somatic practices, meditation, and psychedelic-assisted work. Over time, I developed a steadier relationship with myself, more emotional flexibility, and a deeper capacity for connection.

My personal path has included divorce, remarriage, parenting kids with different needs and identities, parenting a child through cancer treatment, and navigating unexpected life disruptions. These experiences didn’t just challenge me, they expanded my understanding of resilience, grief, love, and what it means to stay connected in the middle of uncertainty.

Today, I bring both my professional training and lived experience into my work.

In the past, much of my work was with women. More recently, I’ve found myself working with many men as well, including those who are beginning to reconnect with parts of themselves they’ve learned to push aside or who want to deepen their intimate relationships. I also work with couples who are trying to find their way back to one another after distance or betrayal.

I pay close attention to how emotional patterns, attachment dynamics, and nervous system states interact, especially during midlife when many people notice shifts in their energy, mood, and relationships. This often helps people make sense of experiences that once felt confusing or like something was wrong with them.

I see psilocybin as a tool that can help interrupt deeply ingrained patterns, creating space for new perspectives, emotional clarity, and more connected ways of relating to ourselves and others.

I don’t believe in pushing people toward a specific outcome, whether that’s staying in a relationship or leaving one, or choosing a particular path for growth. My role is to offer you tools, but more importantly, help you understand your internal world more clearly. That will help you make decisions that feel aligned, grounded, and true to who you are now.